Visit with Doctor Today

This was just a check up with the palliative care tea
m.  Not much to note other than my official weight has dropped to 242 pounds. Dr Krivitsky was concerned about it, and to me it's just a symtom of not feeling great about finances.

I also off-handedly find out that Katherine and Laura are cooking up yet another one of thier plsns without inviting my input.  I am told it's because they think I might say 'no' to thier plan.  Forgetting of course, 'no' is often the correct answer when all risks are considered, and it really isn't me they are really excluding, but some very obvious faults that they shouldn't overlook, but that they want to overlook until it's too late.  My point being that with my help, we can avoid disaster before it occurs, and that big family descisions like this should have as much input from both parents.

Time and again daughters will do this sort of thing with mothers, and never have they learned how un-happy it makes thier dads, and how fruitless it is to attempt to exclude dad, because in the end we do find out, and we dads are frequently predudiced aganst the plan because we never got to participate in the early stages of planning.

Add to this, that in my present state of health there's little I can provide to the family than some well considered guidance. I can feel really hurt when mother and daughter first try to keep such secrets from me.

If it's truly a bad idea, it just makes it all the more difficult for me to overlook or find ways to help mitigate the risks of the plan, and maybe find the one critical change that can make it a good idea that all can be pleased with. In the end, mother and daughter are far more likely to get a 'no' when they approach problems this way, and far more likely to get a 'yes' if everyone gets the chance to think about it early enough.